- Locate people in your network who you can share your top goal. Start with one person and then work out to about ten. I call it in Networlding, your Power-of-Ten Circle. Realistically we can’t help everyone. Gladwell in “The Tipping Point” and Jocelyn and I in Networlding, have said, again and again, start with the few the few that will leverage the many. Who are those ten people who can help you and you help them achieve their goals.
- Ask those people what their goals are and really listen. Listening helps. Make sure you really know what someone in your Power-of-Ten Primary Circle’s goals are by asking questions like, “Why did you decide on this goal? How will achieving this one goal still be of benefit to you five years from now?” and “How will it look, sound and/or feel like when you achieve your goal?” This last question helps connect people to their goal more strongly–in essence connecting your “heart to your head” driving from a place of passion which creates persistence which leads to better and faster goal achievement.
- See the boomerang effect and leverage it.If you find the right 10 people you will find that their goals will dovetail into your goals thus creating a boomerang effect that will lead back to helping you even more. For example, I am helping Karl Staib who was introduced to me through Megan Elizabeth Morris from ideaschema.org who is part of The Domino Project Street Team (great person by the way–also in my Power-of-Ten Circle. Karl recently came to me to help him create an amazing blog book (stay tuned) that will pay forward its proceeds to go to an amazing cause. Meanwhile, I always know that helping someone like Karl, I will: a) learn and grow my social media abilities and b) grow new relationships with people who know Karl but don’t know me and c) do well by doing good–helping those in need which I love doing and makes me happier which d) makes me healthier (mental wellness) and e) gives me energy to do even bigger and better things.
- Exchange with your Power-of-Ten and keep iterating and tweaking your steps. Sharing my ONE GOAL this year, Sell 12,000 of my new book, “The One Minute Networker (September 2012 by BenBella Books) at $20 apiece prior to July 2012 by selling speaking engagements and sponsorships,* I have learned from my Power-of-Ten Circle Partners the best strategies and tactics to reach my goal.I exchange what I have done and ask my circle for information, knowledge (their experiences) and wisdom (the 20% they have tried that has yielded an 80% return) to get ideas as to how to achieve my goals. I offer them similar advice and we exchange how we can continue to promote one another between now and the next time we talk (yes, make this process explicit; that’s what Oprah does. I call her “bolsterific” as she does this so well and often). Of course if you are exchanging well you will evolve to more and better introductions. With LinkedIn I say that the “introduction” has become the new “referral.” So do make great introductions for your Primary Circle and request good introductions. Suggestion: Send those 10 people in your Primary Circle a great introduction as if it were written by them and ask them to do the same. This way as you have only one chance to make a first, great, winning impression, you’ll make a great impression! Final bonus tip! Add in one or two recommendations in that introduction. Ex. But don’t let me be the only recommendation to Anne’s work, following are two other recommendations I have seen on her profile. Now you have hit the tipping point of influence!
- Share your successes along the way. I’ll share more as I tweak and succeed but, currently, I have already moved 20% closer to my goal with a seven months to go. Sharing your successes with your Power-of-Ten Partners will help you both stay inspired as long as you keep helping one another.
What do you think? In the next segment I write I’ll share more as to how I am implementing these tips and also report on how others are doing the same. It’s all about inspiring others to help you achieve your goals. But how can the top 10 in your network or NetWorld help you if you don’t make them partners to your goal?
One Last Summary
- Find your goal
- Find your “Power of Ten”
- Exchange with your Power of Ten at least once a month
- Keep exchanging and working toward your goal – Don’t forget to promote one another
- Share your successes
- Bonus: Keep on keepin on! Don’t stop! Persistence is key!
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